Jennifer Lawrence Explains Why She Didn't Use an Intimacy Coordinator on New Film Die My Love

The acclaimed actress has become part of the growing list of actors who express doubts about the necessity of intimacy coordinators, explaining she chose not to use their services while working on her new movie Die My Love.

Examining the Role of Intimacy Coordinators

On-set intimacy professionals emerged following the #MeToo era to guarantee the security and ease of actors during scenes involving nudity and sexual content. However, numerous well-known actors including Jennifer Aniston and other established stars have voiced concerns about their presence, with several suggesting they interfere with artistic process.

Jennifer's On-Set Perspective

Speaking during the Las Culturistas podcast, while promoting her latest project where she portrays a character descending into mental health challenges, Lawrence commented: "We chose not to use an intimacy coordinator, or perhaps we did have one but didn't make use of their services... I felt completely safe with Robert."

She continued: "He is completely professional and deeply devoted to his partner. What we discussed primarily revolved around family life and personal connections. There was never uncomfortable moments or questions about professional limits."

"Had there been the slightest indication of unease, I would have insisted on an on-set professional. Many male actors take offense if you don't reciprocate their advances, and then the negative treatment starts. He was completely different."

Professional Validation and Ongoing Debate

Earlier this week, industry platform IMDb formally acknowledged on-set intimacy professionals as a separate category, alongside multiple additional crew positions including dance direction, craft services, and puppetry. Before this, they were grouped under "additional crew" rather than having their specific credit.

Notwithstanding this validation, these professionals continue to face public discussion implying they might not be required standards, with well-known performers declining their participation. Lawrence's perspective echoes that of another prominent actress, who earlier shared she declined intimacy coordination while working with Jon Hamm on their television series.

Jennifer's Perspective

"He proved to be such a gentleman – I mean each action, between takes, 'Are you OK?" she recalled. "The scenes were additionally carefully planned. That's the advantage of working with talented directors, appropriate music. So, you don't prepare."

Aniston continued, "They offered, 'Professional verification if you're comfortable,' and I thought, 'Honestly, this is awkward enough!' We're experienced professionals – we can manage appropriately. And we had Mimi on set."

Other Examples and Industry Reaction

Although including numerous scenes of intimate moments and regular undress, the award-winning film – the director's Oscar-winning film about a adult entertainer and a Russian oligarch's son – proceeded without an on-set professional.

The film's star explained she and co-star her screen partner "concluded it would be best to keep it small."

"My character is a sex worker, and I had researched the director's work and recognized his commitment to authenticity. I was mentally prepared for it. As an actress, I treated it as part of my job."

These statements provoked strong reactions from intimacy coordinators, similar to the reaction to Gwyneth Paltrow's recent comments, who earlier this year revealed that filming her new movie Marty Supreme represented her initial experience with the relatively new profession, which she "was unaware of previously."

Paltrow's Perspective

When asked about comfort level with a specific move alongside co-star her younger counterpart, the actress answered: "I'm from the era where you get naked, you assume position, the camera's on."

She continued that she and her co-star then informed the coordinator: "We think we're comfortable. You can maintain distance.' I can't speak to how it is for emerging actors, but... if someone is directing, '{OK, then he's going to place his hand here,' I would feel, as an artist, extremely restricted by that."

Professional Reaction

After these statements, industry executive an experienced producer labeled them "irresponsible" and highlighted that most of those speaking against intimacy coordinators have established careers to maintain personal authority and protection on film sets.

"Occasionally an performer makes comments about whether they value intimacy coordinators or not," said Hollick. "Gwyneth Paltrow mentioned she came of age in a period when industry professionals 'took our kit off and proceeded professionally'. As a powerful woman in Hollywood performing alongside a actor much younger than her, although likely he is chill, I considered it quite an irresponsible remark."

Male Perspective

The veteran actor, in contrast, expressed that he believes the main obligation during heterosexual sex scenes rests with the male performer, instead of a external professional.

"Based on my career, you take responsibility as the man to ensure the woman is comfortable, you talk through completely," he said. "You communicate, '{OK, I'm going to make contact there if that's acceptable'. It's very deliberate but appears like it's occurring organically, which is ideally what authentic performance looks like."

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